Erm...HELL NO!!!
No please! I don't intend to get married soooooooo late down.
Today I'd like to talk about girls staying virgins until they get married.
Why do men react the way they do when a 'ONE in a million' girl says that she wants to lose her virginity on her wedding night?
Why is the only response to this statement a laugh from most guys?
What is so wrong with that? I don't see anything so gravely wrong with it. It's the person's choice isn't it? Why should some men doubt that the girl is actually going to follow through with it? Why can't they just respect a girl's choice, call it gravy and just say goodluck with that????
By now you should know where I stand. Yes, I am one in a million. What most people say is very true, we do live in a real world, but does that really mean that we have to "pitch we" moral values aside? Here's an interesting conversation I had with a gentleman......
Guy: "Fayt, are you one of those girls who will not have sex with your boyfriend?"
Me: "Yea. I ain't losin' it till I get married."
Guy: *laughs* "You are not serious. This can't be true what I'm hearing here. I bet you, you goin' lose it before you get married."
Me: "Ok if you say so. But it ain't goin' happen."
Guy: "Question, what would happen if you fall in love with this guy and you guys have to have sex in order to keep the relationship going, you goin' to tell him no, he ha put a ring on your finger first?"
Me: "Erm duh!!!"
Guy: "You know he going leave you right. So you going just leh him go jus fuh that? You fall in love for cryin' out loud!"
Me: "If he's going to leave just because of that then he's not worth my time. We just not meant to be together and then I would know that he doesn't love me for who I am. All he wants is sex and I am NOT going to get tied up in all of that nonsense. If he can't marry me then he had plans to leave me in the first place, he just ain't married man material. He just ain't ready for me. I goin ha ask him if he's a man."
Guy: "I cah believe this at all......you really believe any man going wah....."
Me: "Leh me tell you something. Sex complicates everything and that's my opinion, so I've been told by people who have experienced it. Me ain goin experiment to find out. I do not want to become so emotionally attached to someone who might probably leave me, just because we having sex. Hell no!!! Besides, there's AIDS and all kinda nastyness goin roun', and I could get pregnant if something goes wrong. I am NOT going to risk any of that."
Guy: "Suppose your husband has AIDS?"
Me: "I'd still love him, what's your point?"
Guy: "I give up. You're a hopeless case. I just can't understand how you intend to do that."
Me: " I cannot understand ya'll principles either. Man, go read yuh Bible yuh hear, and leave me alone."
Unbelievable isn't it?
The rest of that conversation is irrelevant to this topic. I'm trying to understand it from some guys' point of view, so comment if you may.
Thanks in advance I'd really like to hear what everyone has to say about this......:)
*out to chores*
~fayt~
No please! I don't intend to get married soooooooo late down.
Today I'd like to talk about girls staying virgins until they get married.
Why do men react the way they do when a 'ONE in a million' girl says that she wants to lose her virginity on her wedding night?
Why is the only response to this statement a laugh from most guys?
What is so wrong with that? I don't see anything so gravely wrong with it. It's the person's choice isn't it? Why should some men doubt that the girl is actually going to follow through with it? Why can't they just respect a girl's choice, call it gravy and just say goodluck with that????
By now you should know where I stand. Yes, I am one in a million. What most people say is very true, we do live in a real world, but does that really mean that we have to "pitch we" moral values aside? Here's an interesting conversation I had with a gentleman......
Guy: "Fayt, are you one of those girls who will not have sex with your boyfriend?"
Me: "Yea. I ain't losin' it till I get married."
Guy: *laughs* "You are not serious. This can't be true what I'm hearing here. I bet you, you goin' lose it before you get married."
Me: "Ok if you say so. But it ain't goin' happen."
Guy: "Question, what would happen if you fall in love with this guy and you guys have to have sex in order to keep the relationship going, you goin' to tell him no, he ha put a ring on your finger first?"
Me: "Erm duh!!!"
Guy: "You know he going leave you right. So you going just leh him go jus fuh that? You fall in love for cryin' out loud!"
Me: "If he's going to leave just because of that then he's not worth my time. We just not meant to be together and then I would know that he doesn't love me for who I am. All he wants is sex and I am NOT going to get tied up in all of that nonsense. If he can't marry me then he had plans to leave me in the first place, he just ain't married man material. He just ain't ready for me. I goin ha ask him if he's a man."
Guy: "I cah believe this at all......you really believe any man going wah....."
Me: "Leh me tell you something. Sex complicates everything and that's my opinion, so I've been told by people who have experienced it. Me ain goin experiment to find out. I do not want to become so emotionally attached to someone who might probably leave me, just because we having sex. Hell no!!! Besides, there's AIDS and all kinda nastyness goin roun', and I could get pregnant if something goes wrong. I am NOT going to risk any of that."
Guy: "Suppose your husband has AIDS?"
Me: "I'd still love him, what's your point?"
Guy: "I give up. You're a hopeless case. I just can't understand how you intend to do that."
Me: " I cannot understand ya'll principles either. Man, go read yuh Bible yuh hear, and leave me alone."
Unbelievable isn't it?
The rest of that conversation is irrelevant to this topic. I'm trying to understand it from some guys' point of view, so comment if you may.
Thanks in advance I'd really like to hear what everyone has to say about this......:)
*out to chores*
~fayt~
12 comments:
Chica, it be your choice.
hmm..thanks Tyrant's Path...I don't hear that everyday:)
my gf is 20 nd is still ah vigrin nd i respect her for dat. am nt ah vigrin nd it still effort her bc am nt bt for am truely sry dat i didnt wait bt am dmn sure gonna nw bc she more to me dan sex.
awww that is so sweet:)......
girl! like tyrant's path say: IS YOUR CHOICE. ppl so ridiculous these days! if u fall in love with somebody whey d @** da ha do wit sex?!?! yeh yall gone ha sex, but u doh see me sexing off er'body do u? and i agree with you bout the AIDS thing, is kinda like anonymous' situation. Love is stronger than any person's fault. Respect is involved too. It's better to have someone who loves you and u cant have sex for some reason than to have someone who 'claim' they love you, has great sex, and doh respect you. SO tHERE!! lol
get luvs~
lol...I hear ya Jo........point well taken:)
it sad eh that for most people when they ready to spend the rest of their life with someone, it going be really hard to find somebody who hasn't already shared the that special moment(that God intended be shared with MARRIED PPL) somebody else.
and on a common-sense based point of view, ... if is such a big issue to wait, then u have to wonder if the boy is really worth your time... it shouldn't be just about him and what he wants!
Sex is for people in love and if he's not willing to commit for life then don't get trick he doesn't love you!.. and love isnt selfish either so if he cant wait... he doesn't love you!
thank you very much.......:).......nicely put
the whole aids part was bullstep mehn...we both know u not going marry no aidsy man...give me a break...and if u wanna wait till marriage das cool why u got to go make a generalized statement about dudes...yall just wrong as usual... dont mind me da lil dialogue crack me up lol..u going still love him and he have aids sure.................. fairy-tale... stuff
hmmmmm....very interesting point there Ken, but I ain't generalising a thing. So I go leave a man just because he has a disease? Love obviously has no meaning to some people....*sighs*....but I hear ya....and If I can't marry a man with Aids then does that mean I can't marry a man with cancer or some other disease???? Love has no boundaries, if you really love someone, then noting else in the world would matter.
If you can't marry someone you claim to love just because they have a disease then you DON'T love them at all...........
im baa-ack, :p ur last point was wat i was tryna say b4 (dunno if i succeeded :p) anyway, i scroll up bck and c d picture. Its funny, but its, in essence, true. I read somewhere that ppl who enter marriage virgins have sex more often than those who don't... and enjoy it more, lol. I dunno how tru it is, but from my perspective its believable (*whispers* "i have my reasons")
yea Jo.....it makes sense when you really think about it.....hmmm....I think they'd have more fun experimenting, unlike those who would have done it before it's just you get in do it and get out......THE END!!!hahaha!!!!!
But I mean, who knows?! there are exceptions to every rule...when I get there I'd find out:P LOL!!!!
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